Controlling Your Temper

Temper can be vicious, an innate monster coming alive within any person. It brings out the animal in you, much worse when others see you react in a fit of anger. The helpless, run away from you in fear, shying away from senses of innate detectable turmoil understanding, will react in silence trying to dwell on the question of why? A direct element for all acts of violence, from the most heinous to the most petty.
A bad temper as catalyst for the most heinous of crimes committed in history. A bad mood catapulting into uncontrollable desire to let off frustrations, tantamount to hurting someone, physically or emotionally. A common entity affecting many in our current times. A terrible vice that increases your blood pressure, destroys a good mood and brings complete imbalance to the harmony of body and mind. Are human beings aggressive by nature or is the behavior brought on by external forces, accentuated to destructive degrees?
Does the element of patience go hand in hand with those who lose it as compared to those who exercise great amounts of patience. Very often the repercussions of losing ones temper impact with regret much later. Then again who gives one the right to be angry with another? Condescending attitudes and feelings of having an elevated status allows one to creep into the security and harmony of others.
Acceptance of reality, acceptance of others as being human, helps curb anger bouts. Love and patience go together when becoming this better person. No person can be perfectly composed all the time. This accounts for falseness and bottling up inner emotions. Giving vent to these suppressed irritations is important, but the manner in doing it is important. Greater impact can be achieved by not raising your voice and  but by just being firm and getting your point across.
Self help exercises to slow down the tempo will also help. Closing your eyes for a few minutes and virtually getting out of this state also helps a great deal. Picture something calm and tranquil and see yourself physically in this picture. This gives the body and mind to slow down and regain composure. A very tried and tested technique adopted frequently by the Chinese. Those who find themselves in stressful situations and environments all the time, should try this out as frequently as possible.
Consciousness of any state of mind needs to be checked by the individual, frequently. This includes feelings of disdain, anxiety and anger. Once aware, the person needs to be in check and adjust that feeling accordingly. The thought of this may be excruciating, but constant checking will soon become a habit. The eventual temperament of calm and control will soon prevail.
Words spoken in a fit of anger can be damaging and hurting to both the self and others. The worse form of regret is when words thrown at another can not be undone. In knowing that many have toned down from being this vicious monster to a more calm and understanding human being, encourages others to adopt the same healthy attitude.