Staying Strong After A BreakUp

Whether you called it quits or you got dumped, moving on is hard to do when you’re used to that certain someone laying in the bed next to you, being on the other end of the phone when you call and just being there. All too often, we make the mistake of going back only to split on harsher terms but when it’s over, accept it and move on. The best way to get over a breakup is to be prepared for the tornado of emotions that are bound to ensue and control yourself. Do your best to escape the urge to over indulge in your favourite vice, be it food, alcohol or smoking, control yourself Again, it won’t be easy, but you have to stick to your guns and be strong through the process, you’ll come out of it a new person ready to take on the world! They were never worth it in the first place- Take a look at these 8 tips to get over a break-up.

1.) Avoid the Friend Zone - when it’s over, it’s over! There is no such thing as being friends with your ex right away. In time, you can be friends but take the time you need to heal! No phone calls, no random late night sleep overs because “you miss him or you miss her.” Stay strong and avoid contact for at least 90 days!

2.) Reject the Negative Stupor - If you’ve already done your crying or had your fit of anger, let it be done! On those nights when you’re feeling lonely or sad, don’t wallow in it, get up and go somewhere! Go to a restaurant and have a drink, go rent a movie, hit the gym, hook up with some friends. Whatever it is, catch yourself before falling into the abyss of sadness.

3.) Refrain from Random Sex - finding a “jump-off” or a void filler is nothing more than quick fix that doesn’t help you in the grand scheme of things. Furthermore, why pass the pain that you’re feeling on to someone else? Nobody wins. Take the time you need to heal, jumping into a fling immediately after a break-up is not healthy and likely ends up being a waste of time.

4) Switch It Up - Go through your house and rearrange your furniture, especially in the bedroom. Move your bed to another corner or switch up the entire layout of your living room! You can take it a step further and paint a room or two a different color. This helps refresh your attitude and enhances the desire to turn a new leaf

5.) Learn the Lesson - you should always take some time and evaluate the 5 W’s: who, what, where, when, why and also how. What did you do to contribute to your relationship failing? Where was your head, in the clouds, in denial, numb? When did you finally realize it was over? Why did it end? What have you learned and how will you apply what you’ve learned to your next relationship?

6.) Do You - after a break-up it’s so easy to get lost in your sadness and let yourself go. Just because you no longer have a girlfriend/boyfriend don’t veg on the PS2, drink heavily and fail to get your line-up. Ladies, don’t let your nails and toes suffer and develop a habit of eating ice cream in the bed every night! Go to the barber! Go to the salon! Go get your mani/pedi! Hit the gym harder! Be better, not bitter!

7.) Get Over It - rid your place of all things ex! Don’t hoard personal items like his basketball shorts you like to wear or her sweater she used to wear around the house that you occasionally sniff. Let it all go! If weeks have passed and he/she has yet to retrieve their items, toss them! Or put them in a box and tuck it away in storage.

8.) Surround Yourself with Love - there are people that love you regardless of your hardships. So don’t be too proud to reach out to them and let them know you need them. If it’s your siblings, other family members or your best friend you can never have enough support through your transition.

A breakup is never a walk in the park but if you have the right attitude and the right people around you it can make your transition to the single life much smoother and less lonely!