Friday, January 4, 2013

Tolerating People

Tolerance is an important factor, a virtue that is much needed and desired in our day to day existence. Looking around us, we find many people who are unique, different or totally miles apart from us. To bear or survive with such people, approve or disapprove of their thinking and their gestures is something that is constantly related and is deeply associated with the word “tolerance”.

In our lives, we must have observed many people who we don’t appreciate much, who have stark differences to what we are and who we are. Mostly our difference lies with the collision of our moral and ethical values. Our standards of good and evil and our lack or difference of understanding with others is what gets bothersome. This is the root cause of our disparity with each other.The question is how to deal with such situations where you meet a person or you are put in a situation where your viewpoint seems poles apart from others. What exact should be our attitude at that particular time. Below we will focus on some of the very core points which need to be adjusted or added if want to survive in a happy environment.


The key to tolerance is learning to co-exist with each other. With a little bit of effort on our part of being patient we can live,laugh and share with each other.

CONTROL YOUR RESPONSE:
Whatever the different situation you have to go through or how irritated you might get, the very first thing you have to do is to watch your own self. Your reaction and response is important and mostly it is the reaction that will make the situation good or bad. This is the basic requirement and if you can master this, you might be able to handle everything well.

DISTINCTION BETWEEN TOLERANCE AND BAD BEHAVIOR:

Another foremost thing which must be taken care of is to learn establish the distinction between tolerance and a bad behavior. We must know where to set our line and where not to cross certain limit. True, a difference of opinion is always there, but we have to present our point of view in a way that it shouldn’t be conceived or termed as a bad attitude on our part. Just like being diplomatic that is often put through as “the ability to tell a person to go to hell in such a way that he actually looks forward to a trip”. We must recognize the need of this distinction.

BE CONSIDERATE:
We also have to be mindful of the fact that our opinions, habits and styles are different from each other. The religious and the cultural differences also count a lot. So before reacting to a certain person or a situation, we must take care of these facts, look and react at things with an open mind and a bit of consideration.

The Intolerance of Tolerance
The key of tolerance is to stay cool in every way. Always remember patience is a virtue and that is something which needs to be developed in ourselves. Also if we really want a moral reformation in others, we need to correct ourselves first. The attitude is something that really counts and a good behavior comes through patience. We must never let the patience slip away.

Learning to co-exist is the key to tolerance. With a little bit of effort, understanding and patience we can share, laugh and live together. To stay open minded towards the existing dis similarities makes you truly enjoy the essence of surviving with each other. It is all about your acceptance and your reaction towards others moral values and also not forgetting that tolerance is the necessary part of the new ethics.