What Do You Want From A person

What do you want from a person? Or better still your spouse,their love or money? Couple of people seem to want the wrong thing from the right people while some others seem to want the wrong thing from the right people.. Well tell me what you desire from your spouse. Don't worry your secret is safe with me *wink*

Tell Me How You Feel About Love

How do you feel about love right now? Do you feel love is wicked? Love is beautiful? Or love is a nightmare? Your feeling will definitely be based on how you have felt it right? Well couple of times loving the wrong people gives love the wrong picture while the few others who succeeded in loving the right people have a beautiful story to tell.. How ever let's share your story,send me an email and tell me your "love story" terrible experience or a wonderful one tell me! I'll be waiting

Tell Me How You Feel About Love

How do you feel about love right now? Do you feel love is wicked? Love is beautiful? Or love is a nightmare? Your feeling will definitely be based on how you have felt it right? Well couple of times loving the wrong people gives love the wrong picture while the few others who succeeded in loving the right people have a beautiful story to tell.. How ever let's share your story,send me an email and tell me your "love story" terrible experience or a wonderful one tell me! I'll be waiting

Is Your Heart Broken?

Do you sit there and cry like a little baby whose diaper is soaked? Or you stay sad like you've lost your future? Where you born at the same time with that man/woman? Was your life attached to theirs with a glue? These questions have one answer in common which is »NO«. Don't you believe you have a better life without them? Yes you should believe that,so when they decide to walk out of your life by so doing hurting you, fine just let them go.. Cry all you can but will crying make them love you again? »NO«. I'm writing to encourage everyone out there with a broken heart,who ever broke your heart isn't worth your tears,smile and let them know you're stronger than they thought! They feel better and happier when they see you in a shadow of your self so do not give them the satisfaction of seeing you that way. Dress yourself up,look beautiful/handsome,do anything you can to make you happy but don't be silly,wipe your tears,raise your head high and say this to yourself "life goes on" your life didn't begin with them and won't end with them. Remove every possible thing that reminds you of them,delete their numbers if possible and don't ever think of calling them because that'll make matters worse for you, don't go to a usual hangout,avoid every possible connection with that person and begin to rebrand your self,make yourself feel happy, spend time with people who can inspire you and trust me the next time that person sees you he/she will be full of regrets and bythen you're the winner! So shake it off and be happy! Someone somewhere who's going through this if no one else loves you,I LOVE YOU! -BELLA»»Gracias Por leer!

Is Your Heart Broken?

Do you sit there and cry like a little baby whose diaper is soaked? Or you stay sad like you've lost your future? Where you born at the same time with that man/woman? Was your life attached to theirs with a glue? These questions have one answer in common which is »NO«. Don't you believe you have a better life without them? Yes you should believe that,so when they decide to walk out of your life by so doing hurting you, fine just let them go.. Cry all you can but will crying make them love you again? »NO«. I'm writing to encourage everyone out there with a broken heart,who ever broke your heart isn't worth your tears,smile and let them know you're stronger than they thought! They feel better and happier when they see you in a shadow of your self so do not give them the satisfaction of seeing you that way. Dress yourself up,look beautiful/handsome,do anything you can to make you happy but don't be silly,wipe your tears,raise your head high and say this to yourself "life goes on" your life didn't begin with them and won't end with them. Remove every possible thing that reminds you of them,delete their numbers if possible and don't ever think of calling them because that'll make matters worse for you, don't go to a usual hangout,avoid every possible connection with that person and begin to rebrand your self,make yourself feel happy, spend time with people who can inspire you and trust me the next time that person sees you he/she will be full of regrets and bythen you're the winner! So shake it off and be happy! Someone somewhere who's going through this if no one else loves you,I LOVE YOU! -BELLA»»Gracias Por leer!

Is Your Heart Broken?

Do you sit there and cry like a little baby whose diaper is soaked? Or you stay sad like you've lost your future? Where you born at the same time with that man/woman? Was your life attached to theirs with a glue? These questions have one answer in common which is »NO«. Don't you believe you have a better life without them? Yes you should believe that,so when they decide to walk out of your life by so doing hurting you, fine just let them go.. Cry all you can but will crying make them love you again? »NO«. I'm writing to encourage everyone out there with a broken heart,who ever broke your heart isn't worth your tears,smile and let them know you're stronger than they thought! They feel better and happier when they see you in a shadow of your self so do not give them the satisfaction of seeing you that way. Dress yourself up,look beautiful/handsome,do anything you can to make you happy but don't be silly,wipe your tears,raise your head high and say this to yourself "life goes on" your life didn't begin with them and won't end with them. Remove every possible thing that reminds you of them,delete their numbers if possible and don't ever think of calling them because that'll make matters worse for you, don't go to a usual hangout,avoid every possible connection with that person and begin to rebrand your self,make yourself feel happy, spend time with people who can inspire you and trust me the next time that person sees you he/she will be full of regrets and bythen you're the winner! So shake it off and be happy! Someone somewhere who's going through this if no one else loves you,I LOVE YOU! -BELLA»»Gracias Por leer!

You Want To Break Up But You Cant Because....

Are you scared of hurting this person's feelings? If you're the kind of person who's used to looking out for everyone else's needs, maybe deep down you know you don't want to be in this relationship, but you're scared of telling the person it's over. You have to realize, however, that you're not doing this person any favors by staying with them out of sympathy so its better to spit it all out than deceive the person for a longer time,that'll hurt more so if you're sure you can cope be strong and say it Or Are you scared of being single? Another reason sometimes people are reluctant to end a relationship is because they don't want to be alone. But staying with someone as a "placeholder" is not only unfair to them, but also unfair to yourself, because then you're less likely to develop as an individual and find the right person for you so free them stay alone for sometime and think before getting into another relationship.

How Does Your Relationship Make You Feel?

Do you feel sick of your relationship? Does it make you feel caged? Does it cause you lots of trouble? Are you gradually getting tired of your partner? Do you suddenly feel they don't deserve you? Do you feel you need a break?? Well if you're experiencing any of the troubles listed above first you need to sit and think why they're suddenly that way,when you first began to date that person did you have these feelings or not? If you had the feeling from the very first day then its very possible you'll continue to have such feelings for a very long time if your feeling about person does not change positively. And if you weren't feeling unhappy about the relationship at first but suddenly now you are then there must be a reason,probably you found someone better,you want something new, your partner suddenly became un-understanding, doesn't dim it fit to talk issues over with you and all that but there's definitely a reason why you don't feel alright about the relationship. So the next question is, do you think you can cope much longer or walking out is the best? One advice,i won't force you to stay in a relationship you don't appreciate anymore because it won't lead to anything better but its never advisable to leave a relationship without giving it a 2nd shot or try to make it work. If it has become unbearable please walk out before you loose your mind but if it still has a little grace you can try to talk issues over,find out why it went so bad in the first place and also try to work it out but if your partner is not interested in working it out then let go and if you try to work it out but yet there're no changes, please let go you weren't glued to that person and there's still a chance for you to be happier with someone else. If you have a report,complaint or need my assistance in some way,send me an email»»» Gracias por leer!

Handling An Abusive Spouse

Emotional abuse comes in many forms. Sometimes, it's years worth of a boyfriend or girlfriend, Husband or Wife wearing you down; sometimes, it's a romantic entanglement that takes a turn into this dangerous territory; it can even come in school under a dominating teacher; or at work under a bad boss. Whatever abuse you have suffered, you can begin to overcome the effects you've suffered today. For the purposes of keeping things clear in this article, we will alternate between genders in the steps. 1)Realize that you cannot change your partner, only your reaction to him or her* You can attempt to show your partner how damaging these behaviors are and how they are affecting you, and hope your partner will agree that you are being badly damaged. You can hope your partner will then make the decision to change. 2)Your energy is most effective when you change yourself* However, take care not to change yourself in order to primarily avoid conflict with your partner. Changing yourself is to be done with an objective mindset, not a defensive or offensive one. 3)Set boundaries* Abuse, in general, is an issue of disrespect that usually involves trespass upon individual's equality and freedom due to unclear or poorly-defined boundaries. If you are on the receiving end of abuse, it's up to you to set up clear, reasonable boundaries for an honorable relationship and to consistently stick to them. 4)Know when to say goodbye. Sometimes, relationships are just wrong and cannot be saved. For your sake, and for the sake of your mental health, try hard to recognize as early as possible whether or not this relationship is even worth working on. The reason we date before marriage is to discover whether or not we are compatible. We thwart that process when we refuse to see that being treated poorly by another adult is unacceptable. If you are unhappy in your relationship, and have been for longer than half the time you have been together, leave.

Communication Rules for Effective Problem-Solving In Relationships

When people try to become "open" in their communication with one another, they must agree to a set of rules so their discussion doesn't deteriorate into an argument or conflict. Here are some rules to consider. 1. Be specific when you introduce a gripe or complaint. 2. Don't just complain, no matter how specifically; ask for a reasonable change that will relieve the gripe. 3. Ask for and give feedback to the major points, to make sure you are heard, to assure your receiver that you understand what he/she wants. 4. Confine yourself to one issue at a time. Otherwise you may skip back and forth, evading the hard ones. 5. Do not be glib or intolerant. Be open to your own feelings, and equally open to your receiver. 6. Always consider compromise. Remember, your receiver's view of reality may be just as real as yours, even though you may differ. There are not many totally objective realities. 7. Do not allow counter-demands to enter the picture until the original demands are clearly understood, and there has been clear-cut response to them. 8. Never assume that you know what your receiver is thinking until you have checked out the assumption in plain language; nor assume or predict how he/she will react, what he/she will accept or reject. Crystal-ball gazing is not for communicating. 9. Don't mind-read! Ask! Do not correct a receiver's statement of his/her own feelings. Do not tell a receiver what he/she should know or do or feel. 10. Never put labels on receiver. Call him/her neither a coward, nor a neurotic, nor a child. If you really believed that he/she was incompetent or suffered from some hopeless basic flaw, you probably would not be working together very long. Do not make sweeping, labeling judgments about his/her feelings, especially about whether or not they are real or important. 11. Sarcasm is dirty fighting. Never, never engage in sarcasm if you want to be friends afterward. 12. Forget the past and stay with the here-and-now. What either of you did last year or last month or that morning is not as important as what you are doing and feeling now. And the changes you ask cannot possibly be retroactive. Hurts, grievances and irritations should be brought up at the very earliest moment, or the receiver has the right to suspect that they may have been saved carefully as weapons. 13. Do not overload your receiver with grievances. To do so makes him/her feel hopeless and suggests that you have either been hoarding complaints or have not thought through what really troubles you. 14. Meditate. Take time to consult your real thoughts and feelings before speaking. Your surface reactions may make something deeper and more important. Don't be afraid to close your eyes and think. 15. There is never a single winner in a discussion. Both of you either win more understanding, or lose it. Gracias por leer! -QueenBella

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

Making Relationships Work in Difficult Times

Any partnership, even good marriages, has bad times. It may help to consider relationships as works in progress, a long-term commitment in which the "downs" sometime outnumber the "ups." Here is advice to help guide couples in difficult situations. Signs of a Healthy Partnership Shared goals, values, and dreams clearly help keep a relationship alive and vital. Do other factors indicate whether your relationship will make it? There's no crystal ball to give us that answer, but here are some signs of strength to look for and build on: * Flexibility and the ability to compromise. Knowing when to agree to disagree. * The ability to communicate or, at least, the desire to learn how. * Shared decision-making and acknowledgment and respect of important aspects of each other's lives. * Pulling together in times of trouble. Sometimes, a specific problem can be a wake-up call that leads to a stronger relationship. * Sense of humor, the ability to lighten up and let go. * Caring enough to fight. Partners who are passionate about their differences stand a better chance of healing. * Realistic expectations and acceptance of the other person's frailties. * The ability of partners to go their separate ways, pursue different interests, then come together and share their experiences. Many of the ways in which we interact in our relationships are based on patterns of behavior we learned in the family we grew up in: for example, how we communicate feelings, how we express and assert ourselves and how family roles are divided. Here are some ideas that can help us create and maintain healthy relationships with our partners: * Don't make promises you can't or won't keep. * Be reliable in small things. This helps build trust. * Keep short-term arguments in perspective. These will pass if they are not blown out of proportion. * Be clear about what you want and the value of what you are trying to achieve in your relationship * Don't assume the worst every time you have the same hassle. Many fights are triggered by similar events. Examine and try to change negative patterns of interaction in your relationship. * Re-pledge yourselves to each other aloud occasionally. * Keep a journal and photo albums. Read about-or look at-the good times when things get tough. * Examine the key dimensions of your relationship. Look for ways to strengthen your attraction to each other, improve your communication, feel more trust, have more strength of purpose and enhance your enjoyment of each other. Your partnership is like a pot of clay. Whatever it becomes is up to you, the sculptors.

The 3 Rules Of Love

As a culture and as human beings, we spend about as much time talking about and thinking about our relationships and our relationship status as we do about how we are going to pay our bills and lose five lbs. Millions of dollars, maybe even trillions of dollars, are spent trying to find the one, make the one we have better, and decide if the one we have is really the one we want! Love Rule #1: Focus on Love, not Relationships. There is a big misunderstanding that love and relationships are the same thing – while they are related, they are not the same. Most of us walk around saying or thinking we want a ‘relationship,’ when in reality what we really need and desire is more love, in one of its many forms – connection, friendship, intimacy, compassion, companionship, affection, acknowledgement and the list goes on. Change your focus to cultivating love and to generating the energy of that love you desire in your life instead of on finding or fixing a relationship and you’ll find that you have more love and better relationships as a result. Love Rule #2: Every relationship starts with the relationship you have with yourself. Okay, so you’ve probably heard this one but are you really living it? I haven’t met a person yet who couldn’t stand to improve the relationship that they have with themselves. And if something isn’t working for you in getting the love you desire from out there, then you need to find what’s first not working with the love and relationship you have with yourself. Love Rule#3:  Love Always Creates More Love. Not getting the love you need? Then BE LOVE. The energy you feel inside and that you put out there into the world comes back to you* simple Law of Attraction*

Sex and Love Addiction

Many different behaviours can become addictive, and sex addiction and love addiction can develop. Sex addiction is described as any sexual activity that feels out of control. Sex addiction could involve sex with a partner, but it may also mean activities such as pornography, masturbation, visiting prostitutes or using chat lines. For many people, these habits don't cause them a problem. However, sex addicts are unable to control these urges and actions despite the problems they may cause in their relationships and to their finances and professional lives. This addiction is similar to substance abuse because it is caused by the powerful chemical substances released during sex. Love addicts, on the other hand, become dependent on the emotional stability provided by romantic partners. Love addicts often have low self-esteem and lack self-identity, and their addiction can result in obsessive, controlling behaviour. The cause of love addictions and sex addictions is often rooted in childhood or adolescence. Early trauma, neglect or depression may be factors. The consequences of sex addiction and love addiction are varied. Sex addicts and love addicts will typically have long-term relationship and intimacy problems, but the addiction can also affect them financially, professionally, physically and socially. The recovery process for sex addicts and love addicts is similar to that of substance addictions. It involves identifying an d changing behaviour that's painful and damaging.

Life As A Single Dad

Is there a more challenging transition for a man than to become a new single dad with children at home? If there is, I can't imagine it. Whether you lose your spouse and the mother of your kids to death or because of a divorce and/or abandonment, adjusting to the new reality of things is a major and life changing task. Most newly single dads I know struggle to know where to start. What should be first on my list, and how do I even begin tor get my arms around the rest? Having talked to a number of single dads who have successfully negotiated this transition i can tell you its not easy but its worth it. You just have to be the mom and dad at the same time,be there for them,remember their anniversaries,play with them and love them the best way you can. They'll not remain kids for ever,they'll grow up before you know it and then you can rest and enjoy the benefits.

Life As a Single Mom

It is possible to have a cool and social life as a single mom. Many women have traveled the same path with success and to the benefit of both themselves and the children. Whether you feel a lack of a good and social life because of time constraints, other people's expectations or simply fear of the unknown, you can overcome these issues to rediscover a good and social life for yourself. All your need to do is make out time for you,your kids and your life in general, no law states a single mom should look pale,stressed out or unhappy. There's a reason why you're a single mom and until there's a change in your status all you gotta do is live life as happy as possible okay? Be there for your kids,have fun with them, have a to-do list,rest a reminder so you don't disappoint them on their anniversaries. Take sometimes out hang out alone with a few friends or friend who inspire you and understand your life not people who complicate it with their actions and words. Don't shut yourself out the door of happiness and don't ever think love can never find you again+dont make yourself too vulnerable for gold diggers and betrayers in disguise. Be serious with your job,remember you have bills to pay,don't let the hurt of seeing your children suffer knock on your door. Just do the best you can and be te very best you can.

What Does Love Make You Do?

What do you feel when we're in love? What's the feeling you get? Does it feel stupid? Awkward? Bizarre? How exactly do you feel? Does it make you do stupid things? Like letting a man hit you and all you do is cry? Getting pregnant for someone who's incapable of taking responsibility and yet you abort over and over? Does it make you continuously and helplessly love a girl who's cheats on you over and over? Does it make you give your every little earnings to a woman who feels nothing for you? Or does it make you let an outsider tear your wonderful family apart? Does it make you hit the one you love? Well choose your answer but then think again,love should face its challenges not get sunk in its challenges,figure it out and solve your problem don't let the problem dissolve you. -Gracias por leer!

Why Does Love Hurt?

Why does love hurt? Love hurts for a myriad of reasons,sometimes it is because our love is unrequited, sometimes it is because we fall out of love, sometimes it is about jealousy, but in all cases the real issue of why love hurts stems from the fact that there is a gap between the reality of a selfish, competitive world to which we belong and the ideal, selfless world that we are transported to when we ‘fall’ for another person who we dream is perfect. Unfortunately none of us are perfect, because we all variously carry within us damage caused by growing up in a selfish, competitive world we all suffer from what is known as the human condition. However the beauty of women can lead us to believe that someone is actually innocent, and that perfect love can exist. Study reveals ‘that men could dream that women were actually innocent and that, through that partnership, they could share in that innocent state, while for their part, women could use the fact that men were inspired by their image of innocence to delude themselves that they actually were innocent. Men and women could ‘fall in love’, let go of reality and dream of an ideal world.’ The problem with ‘letting go of reality’ was that reality could not be denied forever we weren’t actually innocent. Whether it was our own selfish reality, or that of our partner, or just the world in general, eventually reality would intrude on our dream which as all of us who have been in love know only too well, can hurt a great deal. That is not to say that a deep friendship and respect wouldn’t emerge and continue to grow in its place, but the shock of emerging from the dream back into the cold, selfish ‘real’ world does really hurt so much so that some people never get over it, and then never let themselves go back, never wanting to be hurt by love again which is why Cat Stevens sang ‘the first cut is the deepest’. To really answer the question ‘why does love hurt’, we needed to be able to explain why there was a gap between ‘reality’ and the ideal world of love and selflessness that we let ourselves fall into when we fell in love. Most wonderfully, biology is now able to provide the full explanation of why we humans are variously angry, alienated and egocentric. This comprehensive explanation and defense of the origin of our non-ideal state, namely the human condition. The beauty of this explanation is that it turns out that humans have had to be ‘non-ideal’, that is, we had no choice but to be uncooperative. This explains that we all have a loving instinctive orientation that evolved over millions of years, however with the emergence of consciousness some two million years ago, there came a juncture when our conscious intellect challenged our instincts for control, and a terrible battle broke out between them. The effect of this battle was the extremely competitive, selfish and aggressive state that we call the human condition. Finally the explanation is here that explains that having to suffer being non-ideal has been a heroic state. Someone said ‘wholeness for humans depends on the ability to own their own shadow’. Now both men and women will be able to view reality with all its selfishness and flaws, with complete compassion we will be able to own our shadow instead of having to escape it by ‘falling in love’. This is a love that won’t end in hurt and tears there will be no hurt and disillusionment because this is based securely in first principle biology and so it can only bring more and more true, lasting joy.

Benefits Of Staying Happy

Happiness helps you lose or maintain your weight: You might notice, or have noticed, that when you first start falling in love you lose weight. This is on account of all those “happy” thoughts floating around inside of you, aka endorphins. Of course this isn’t only the case during love stories; it’s a real thing that happens with any “reason” for happiness. Similarly, when you are happy you aren’t inclined to fall back on food a comfort, entertainment, or anxious habit, so you end up losing weight for that reason as well. Your body moves “faster” when you are happy: When you are happy your body actually functions and moves at a higher energy frequency. Your body heals faster when you are happy: So apparently happiness helps your body to take care of itself. Not only are you mentally and emotionally going to be healthier but physically you will most likely be healthier as well. All as a result of being happy.  You also have a stronger more effective immune system. You are more productive when you are happy: Whether you are thinking this might help in the work place or in your personal endeavors You are more likely to live longer when you are happy: Studies have been done that have actually shown a connection to happiness by way of answering questions positively and the person’s age. The more positive the person was in their answers (that were measuring their happiness) the more likely they were to live longer. You will have healthier relationships: Let’s just be honest, this is more of a no brainer in the sense that if you aren’t happy it’s really hard to have a relationship and keep it happy. However, if you are happy your relationship will more likely display signs of being a healthy positive relationship. Now that we have a covered a few things that are a results of being happy, I would like to point out something that I like to call the “happiness is exponential” theory. This theory is basically that when you are happy your life attracts and promotes positive things, thus making it easier to be even happier. You will attract people who like that you are happy; they will in term add positive things to your life. You will be more grateful when you think out of a place of happiness, which will in term make you happier. The examples can go on and on, but I imagine you get the point. If you pursue and healthy happy life, you will most like promote an exponential growth of that happiness.

If You Love, Don't Cheat

If you love someone,what's the big deal in telling them you do? Let me ask,why do people often get tired of people? If you love someone you should feel like being with the person every minute,hey hold on,i know we all need privacy sometimes to clear our heads yea? But loving a person means holding too tight to that person that you can let go,so if you let go trust me that aint love. If you love someone you'll never cheat on the person true/false? Don't give me that crap about men being polygamous,hey shhhh! Love should be more important to you that your urge to cheat hun? If you don't mind loosing that person but rather decide to go ahead and cheat then you don't love that person well enough to stay faithful and you know what we say " stay faithful or stay single" think about it *wink*

MY Story+A Good Night Wish

At 6:00pm,I sat right here at the veranda looking straight into the air and sky until it gradually began to grow dark,i watched the trees wave their leaves as the wind blew and light showers of rain poured down continuously. I watched the clouds go thick,i watched lightening come on and off until it was finally dark "oh its night fall" i said to myself as i smiled.. And then insects began to chirp.. i stood up,went back into my room and thought i share my experience with ya'll my loved ones. Wondering What Happened? I watched the sky grow dark, i watched night come, that's what happened,that was what i did this evening. I Wish You All A Super Great Night With A Wonderful Feeling All Through.. - QueenB

A promise..

Promises aren't supposed to be broken,when you break a promise to your partner or anyone for that matter you break an atom of trust from the many trusts they have in you and the many promises you keep breaking the many trusts you keep killing,at some point there'll be no more trust left in their hearts for you because it goes down little by little.. If you care about how a person feels all the time you'll do your possible best to keep to your promises all the time,everytime won't always be perfect so the imperfect day you end up breaking a promise your partner will totally understand because you've earned their trust enough. What am i trying to say? Keep to your promise,a man or woman of dignity and respect will say what they can do. People respect you more when you are true to your promises.. If you won't do it? Don't promise it and if you promise it? Do it. Hope you understand? -signed: Bella

What Love Does...

Love could cuddle you up when it rains at night,love could put a smile on your face when you wear a frown,love could make you the happiest,love could always say "here's my shoulder lean on me" love will never let you alone,love will always be that neighbour who comes around to know if all is well with you, love is that voice that speaks to you when you're alone,love makes you fight for it, love keeps you sleepless at night putting thoughts in your head and smiles on your face,love makes you believe in the unseen,love makes you hope for tomorrow,love kisses you in the middle of the night when the mouth is soured,love gives you a tight hug when you're in sweats and loves says be calm i'll never leave. Do you understand this? Love is awesome..