1, Do I respect and admire this person?
2. What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
3. Do I trust this person?
4. Can I rely on them? Do I trust their judgment? Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
5. Do I feel Safe? Do I feel emotionally safe with this person? Can I be vulnerable? Can I be myself? Can I be open? Can I express myself?
6. Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married. If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!
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The following are some of the steps one needs to take to avoid marrying the wrong person:
1) Make sure that the drive is love and not infatuation:
Love is a decision to care for somebody, no matter what the person does or does not do.Love is a decision and not a feeling.Love suffers long,love is kind, bears all things,seeks not its own and thinks no evil.
Anytime you are in a relationship and the person is always insisting on his or her own,the person is not in love.
Love has the ability to stand the test of time but infatuation does not.Infatuation has a short life span.If you marry because of infatuation, you will have a horrible marriage.If you want to have a home without regrets, marry because you truly love the person.
2) Be the right spouse:
You must first be the right person to attract the right person.
Are you self-centered? Do you argue a lot? and full of yourself?Are your eyes only fixed on your honeymoon and the celebration?You may be deceiving yourself.That is not all that marriage entails, there are challenges that come with marriage.Work on yourself and be the right spouse.
3) Forget about age:
Consciousness over your age, more often than not will make you marry the wrong person.Any decision you make in haste could end you up with the wrong partner.Do not be in a hurry to make decision because of age.
4) Study how he or she treats others:
The way a person treats others around is an indication as to how you will be treated sooner or later.
If you are dating a man that shouts at his driver because he is paying him, the moment you become his wife, he will soon do the same to you because it seems that he shouts at everyone under his authority.
5) You must know the persons character/temperament
Knowing the person’s temperament will help you to know the right person and to knOw the person’s strength that will help complement your weakness.
6)Your happiness:
Be sure your partner always wants to see you happy,if there are times he/she deliberately hurts you or makes you cry,be sure its something you can handle,if you can't oh please find an alternative.
7)Ask God:
